Starting your journey as a volunteer mentor is both meaningful and transformative. At Big Brothers Big Sisters of Puget Sound, we understand that building a strong connection with your Little can set the foundation for a lifelong impact. Whether you’re mentoring a child for the first time or returning after some time away, the most effective relationships are built on trust, consistency, and presence.
Here are three simple but powerful tips to help you start strong:
Show up consistently – Even in small ways
Trust begins with reliability. Whether it’s a quick check-in text, showing up for your planned outing, or simply listening when they speak, your Little is learning they can count on you.
“Consistency matters more than perfection. You don’t have to be their superhero—you just need to be there.” Big Brother, Ken, shared with us
By spending just 4 hours a month, you’re giving your Little a powerful message: “I’m by your side, and you are not alone”.
Listen with intention
Many first-time mentors feel pressure to give advice or “say the right thing.” But sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is listen without judgment.
You can build trust by asking open-ended questions, such as “What was the best part of your week?” or “What’s something you wish more people knew about you?” These kinds of questions encourage meaningful conversations and show that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know your Little.
When you listen with your full attention, your Little will feel heard, and that’s how real trust begins to form.
Be fully present
Being fully present means giving complete attention to your time together, both mentally and emotionally. It’s not just about showing up, it’s about being engaged in the moment. Whether you’re playing a game, having a conversation, or sharing a quiet activity, your presence sends a powerful message that your Little is important and worth your time.
When mentors are attentive and genuinely involved, it helps create a safe and supportive space where Littles can be themselves, build confidence, and develop trust in the relationship over time.
Get ready to become a mentor today!
Becoming a mentor isn’t just about helping someone else; it’s about growing alongside them. Many Bigs tell us that mentoring helped them become more empathetic, confident, and fulfilled in their own lives.
If you’re ready to volunteer in your area, mentor a child, and support a kid on their journey—start today. It only takes a few hours a month to make a lifetime impact.
👉 Become a Big at inspirebig.org/become-a-big
